Heys

Heys is a collection of my letters I send to myself. It's a way for me to step out of me and reflect on me, and life.

Hey Akash how are you doing?

Akash every time you’re stuck in your head you’re not in the present. You’ve to relentlessly and utterly strive to be in present. Present moment will set you free, do you really want to be free?

Thanks and have a lovely evening? Akash

Hey akash, how are you doing today?

Akash you should have a framework for making decisions. It’s not like you don’t already have right now, it’s just implicit. You should instead make this process explicit. A framework will guide when you’re spending inordinate amount of time making decisions about for trivial things, or very little time on important things. It also helps you make better decisions over time cause you can refer back to see what worked and didn’t and why. Most importantly, it’ll help you take the burden of making decisions that you feel were very consequential. It’s like, “Oh I messed up, hmm why did I decided this path, ah I see it’s because my framework led me down this path, what can we do better”, you get the idea. It helps you detach a bit from feeling guilty or prideful for you decisions, it makes you objective

Have a lovely evening my friend Akash

Hey akash how are you doing today?

Akash I like that you try to conjecture ideas about your behaviors; I think you should take a scientific approach to them. i.e. Your conjectures should be falsifiable and reproducible. Falsifiable because if you can’t test and disprove your conjectures than you can’t make progress on them. Reproducible because they help build confidence.

I like this approach cause it also helps you be objective and a bit detached from them.

Thanks and have a lovely evening my freind Akash

p.s. Don’t be afraid to ask your friends and family for help, sometimes they know more about you than you yourself!

Hey Akash, how are you doing today?

I’ve been thinking about this today, you always assume that your emotions drive your behaviors but what if it’s the other way around? What if you want to drive a certain behavior and so you induce the emotions that (you’ve learnt over time) will get you there?

For example, when you’re yelling at someone, you assume that it’s because you’re angry but what if it’s your goal to yell at them and so you get angry as you know it’s easier to yell when you’re angry. Or when you’re avoiding some task because you feel uneasy, it’s more probable that it is your goal to avoid the task and so you create this sense of uneasiness.

I think it probably didn’t start this way but I suspect over time your brain learnt that it can induce certain emotions to get you to do certain things. What’d you think?

Have a beautiful day my friend
Akash

Hey Akash how are you doing today ?

Akash your intellect is fundamnetally a tool in service of whatever direction you put it in. If you press the button of positivity, it’ll try and find the positive in everything; if you press the button of victimhood, it’ll show you all the ways you’re a victim; If you press the button of agency, it’ll show you all the opportunities.

what button are you pressing?

Thanks and have a lovely evening my friend Akash

Hey Akash how are you doing today ?

A good smoke test for whether you’re in present is to check if you can remember the events after the fact. If you’re either too engrossed in yourself or in the task, you’d not be able to recall the events later on.

Thanks and have a lovely evening my friend Akash

Hey akash how are you doing today ?

Akash sometimes you forget but small details in your life bring you joy and enrich your life. Like massaging your head with oil, sitting on the veranda and siping coffee early in the morning, watching sunset at the beach, watching rain from your room listening to music, meditation, eating grilled sandwiches cooked by your mom, driving bike with one and the index finger of your other hand clutching the jewelry around your neck, and so many more!

Next time you feel a bit down, just do one of them!

Have a lovely evening my friend Akash

Hey Akash how are you doing today ?

Akash you gotta fail big and you gotta fail fast. Fail every day. Fail as often as possible. Fail. Fail. Fail. Just keep on failing and never stop.

Just do it.

Thanks and have a lovely evening my friend Akash

Hey akash how are you doing today ?

Sometimes you’d have to make hard decisions. Decisions where there is no right or wrong answer but making any could have repercussions that you might not like. That’s when your principles can help you. They can guide you in times when you feel a bit uneasy about making any decision. Let your principles make the decision for you.

Thanks and have a lovely evening my friend Akash

Yo Akash how are you doing today?

I think finally figured out why you’re not making progress, It’s kinda obvious in hindsight and you probably knew it already, but the reason is that a. you lack focus, and b. you lack intensity. I want you to figure out your number one priority, literally whatever it is, and then crank up the intensity on that thing. Can you promise to do that for me?

Have a productive day my friend

Akash

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