Heys

Heys is a collection of my letters I send to myself. It's a way for me to step out of me and reflect on me, and life.

Hey Akash, how are you doing today?

Sometimes when you notice negative feelings bubbling up in you, your brain tries to find a coherent narrative to fit those feelings. But feelings are ephemeral by nature, and so your brain will often miss-attribute your feelings to certain things or aspects about you. And that causes you a lot of problems. For example: “negative feelings bubbling up cause something happened”, “it’s because you’re ugly!”, “it’s because you’re unlovable”, etc.

Next time you see negative (or even positive) feelings bubbling up, try not to think, rather just observe those feelings inside your body, breathe them in, feel them, let it flow through in and around you.

Have a productive day my friend
Akash

Hey Akash how are you doing today?

Time is really weird. We always perceive it in relation to the present. But if we step back, without this relativity it has no clear meaning, it just is. And yet, this relativity gives us such a profound meaning. I think sometimes things only make sense in relation to something. Try to find those productive relations between things/people.

Have a lovely day my frined
Akash

Hey Akash how are you doing?

Sometimes things feel never-ending, and you keep asking yourself when will this end. But I feel like that’s you trying to project the present over to the future. Just because things might seem this way right now doesn’t mean that it’ll be the same tomorrow! I know it sounds impossible to believe when you’re in the now projecting cause you can’t see any other way. But can you take a leap of faith with me on this? Let’s put it this way, could your past self have ever imagined how the present turned out? No right! So, let’s just say your current self isn’t much better at predicting the future. So don’t get anxious about the future, be here now, and let the future take care of itself!

Have a lovely day my friend
Akash

Hey Akash, how are you doing?

Anger is proxy for hurt. And the hurt is proxy for unmet needs. Figure out what those needs are, and fulfill them. And You’ll finally feel free.

Thanks, and have a lovely day
Akash

Hi Akash how are you doing?

It seems difficult, doesn’t it? There’s this resistance. If you look a bit closer, you’ll notice that resistance is the result of negative emotions bubbling up. And you can’t handle them, so you tend to quickly find a distraction to not feel them. You’ve got to find a way to digest those emotions man. One way is to see through it with sheer intensity. Shine a light through it, embrace the ugly. It’s going to be an extremely difficult process, but it’s going to be worth it!

Have a great day my friend
Akash

Hey akash, how are you doing today?

Akash, you learn to let it go by realizing that you never had it to begin with! It was always just an illusion!

Do you control what the weather would be like today? What about the earth’s rotation around the sun? What about what neurons to fire in your brain? Maybe instructing your motor proteins to transfer nutrients Maybe instructing your immune system to fight off that cold.

You get the idea, the universe takes care of the minute details to the very vast details then what makes you think you do have control?

More importantly, if it can take care of all those things, what makes you think it can’t take care of you too?

The answer is, it’ll take care of you if you let it go.

Think about it.
Akash

Hi Akash, how are you doing today?

You’ve everything you need to be happy right here right now. It’s only your beliefs that make you unhappy.

My hope is that one day you will realize it. It might take you your whole lifetime.

Thanks, have a good night
Akash

Hi Akash, how are you doing today?

Anger is proxy for hurt. And hurt is proxy for unmet needs. Figure out what those needs are, and fulfill them. And You’ll finally feel free.

Thanks, have a lovely day
Akash

Hi Akash, how are you doing?

I keep having to bring this up but you gotta find patience within yourself man. I see so much restlessness in you. It’s okay, just notice it. Take a deep breadth. Calm down. It’s going to take a while. And that’s okay cause you’re going to be here for a while :)

Thanks, have a lovely night
Akash

P.S. Don’t try to force the restlessness within you to still down or it’ll have the opposite effect. It’s like a quicksand, the more you struggle, harder it’ll become.

Hi Akash, how are you doing today?

I’ve to admit, I kinda misunderstood fear. Fear isn’t something to be conquered or overcome. That’s a wrong way to look at it. Rather, fear is like a guard dog for your needs. Every time it barks, it’s trying to signal you about your unmet needs man. Your problem is that you have a hypersensitive guard dog. And you gotta to train him better. Hint: Forming habits and learning about cbt would help

Thanks, have a lovely evening
Akash